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“As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” (NASB)
In 1992, James Carville, Bill Clinton’s political strategist, posted a message in Clinton's campaign headquarters that said, "It's the economy, Stupid." This was his straightforward, perhaps even abrasive way of keeping all the workers focused on the central theme of their campaign. (http://www.freshministry.org/illustrations.html)
Carville felt keeping the campaign focused on the economy was the key to a successful presidential bid for Clinton and he found a way to communicate the message that captured everyone’s attention. In the same spirit, I wish to suggestion that the church needs to focus on a single word too—that word is “Relationships.”
People have a deep need to enter into meaningful relationships with people who share their values. The church is a community of people, who voluntarily enter into relationship with one another to accomplish kingdom goals. It is a place where we minister and receive ministry.
Before I talk about how to develop healthy relationships within a faith community, I want to mention in passing that not all relationships are healthy. For instance, sometimes we enter into toxic fellowship. Proverbs 16-19 says, “These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:  A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,  An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,  A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.” Unfortunately, some people use their fellowship time with one another gossiping about others or criticizing leaders. This type of fellowship is something God hates and is an abomination unto him.
Another form of toxic fellowship is when a faith community sees service as something that should flow in only one direction. In his book, The Radical Reformission Mark Driscoll writes, “People with this transaction mindset about God and church will even see ministry not as something they do with the spiritual gifts God has given them but rather as something that is done for them as a religious service by someone else. Consequently, churches pandering to this mindset are filled with consumers who take more than they give and with observers who watch more than they participate.” (The Radical Reformission, p171-172)
I ran across a video parody the other day that illustrates this issue well. I do need to warn you that you need a sense of humor to appreciate this clip.
It is not healthy for a person to give and not receive, neither is it healthy for them to receive and not give. When I say the word ministry, do you think of something that you do or something that is done for you? I hope that your answer to that question is yes. It isn’t either or, it is both and. The church is a place where you can utilize your spiritual gifts to serve others and where others use their gifts to serve you. If you don’t want to serve—we have a problem. If you won’t allow others to serve you—we have a problem. Both must take place.
So far, in this message I’ve used the word serve in a general way, in the way Peter used it in our text, but for the remainder of our time together, I want to be more specific and talk about ways you can enter into healthy relationships in this church.
The King James Version uses the phrase “one another” 88 times
in the New Testament. Many of those occurrences are direct commands
that instruct us how to enter into healthy relationships. Forty-five
of those commands are to “love one another.” I’ve selected just over
20 of the 88 scriptures to read this morning. Please treat them as
a checklist. Place a check beside those instructions that you are
presently following. Remember that because the commands say, “one
another” that it suggests a reciprocal relationship. In other words,
John 15:12 says, "This is My commandment, that you love one another, just
as I have loved you.” (NASB) So the question is, are you loving one
another and are you receiving love back in return?