What's in it for Me?
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For some people it is hard to say; to others it is hard to hear-it is a small word, only two letters, but with atomic power it can crush people's hopes and dreams and quickly send them into an emotional tailspin. I've seen children throw tantrums in public because their mothers used the word in response to their question, "Mommy can I have a...?" I've also seen parents hit the ceiling when one of their little one's started firing back, using the word in response to a command like, "Junior, go and clean your room," or "Sissy, eat all your green beans." The powerful two-letter word, of course, is "no."
How are you at saying "no?" Are you a "people-pleaser" who desperately wants everyone in your life to be happy in general and happy with you in particular so you're afraid to say no? Or are you the exact opposite? Do you use the word with indiscretion as a sort of "power trip" over other people, being completely oblivious to their needs? Like most other things in life, the use of this word requires balance.
How are you at hearing "no?" Are you a manipulative sort of person who expects everyone to answer to your every whim and become crushed if they choose not to? Or are you the exact opposite? Can you become obnoxious and entice people into saying "no" to you to keep a safe distance between you and other people, using the word as a buffer to keep you from experiencing real community?
How do you usually react to the word "no?" Do you sulk, get defensive or hurt? Or can you accept "no" as a legitimate answer to any question? One thing I know for sure, the ability to process the word "no" is a key ingredient for success. In my early days as a writer, I received stacks of rejection letters. They could have kept me from becoming a writer, instead, I used them as motivation to improve my craft. Salesmen hear many more "nos" than they ever hear "yeses." The ones that are able to make a living are the ones that can get past the nos so they can get to the yeses. The ability to process the word "no" demonstrates maturity and enables success.
Then why is it so hard to hear?
Especially when it is coming from God?
In last week's sermon, God told David no. In no uncertain terms, God told David that he didn't want him to build a temple for him because he had blood on his hands. But accompanying that no was a very strong "yes,"- a yes that the temple would get built, but by his son, not by him. Please listen as I read David's response to his rejection by God:
"Then David the king went in and sat before the Lord, and he said, 'Who
am I, O Lord God, and what is my house, that Thou hast brought me this
far?  And yet this was insignificant in Thine eyes, O Lord God, for
Thou hast spoken also of the house of Thy servant concerning the distant
future. And this is the custom of man, O Lord God.  And again what
more can David say to Thee? For Thou knowest Thy servant, O Lord God! 
For the sake of Thy word, and according to Thine own heart, Thou hast done
all this greatness to let Thy servant know.  For this reason Thank
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