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Keeping Score

At first, the only thing Susan and I agreed on was that we were in love and that we should be married. We disagreed about everything else.

Our tastes were direct opposites. To me, ordering delivery pizza, staying home and watching a ball game was a perfect evening. Not Susan. She wanted to go out, walk around a mall and eat Mexican food in a dimly lit room.

Though I'd envisioned all the ways a good wife would make my life better, I never really stopped to think about the reciprocal nature of the marriage relationship. I've got to tell you that I didn't have a clue. I understood what I wanted from her, but wasn't really sure what she needed from me.

"What's wrong honey?" I'd ask. "Well if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you?" I wasn't the brightest candle on the cake; I usually didn't know.

For awhile, we worked out our differences by taking turns "getting our way." I don't quite remember when it happened, but after awhile, we didn't need to do that anymore. I started enjoying walks through the mall and Susan started watching an occasional ball game with me.

It is natural to want to keep score. "Since I went ___________ with you the other day, will you do __________ with me?" But real joy comes in sacrificing without any expectations of something in return.

With time, I've come to value the things she does, funny how that happens, isn't it? Yea, we still argue, and sometimes get pretty mad at each other, but we've learned to treasure our differences as much as our similarities. After all, it was those differences sparked our initial attraction to each other.

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